Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Fading Lights

Most everyone that reads this blog knows that I stay pretty busy. And it's never a surprise when you don't hear from me for a few days. Trust me, it's never a lack of anything interesting going on.

I haven't been feeling so bright the last week or so though and the blog has suffered. You see, my 77 year old mother is not doing well. She has a bright personality for the most part. And when she's awake she's a joy to be around. The problem is that her body is just getting tired. She's had a rough life and done many amazing things with it. Most people that knew her over the years loved her. And as long as I've known, everyone has called her Mom if they are blood related or not. Today has been a good day and we welcome that. I would like nothing more than her to prove everyone wrong and live for another 20 years happy and healthy. But, to be realistic, that's not likely.

On top of that, we have my 87 year old father that has been with her for 58 years. He's at home trying to figure out what to do next. He's afraid to visit her in the hospital because that would tell her that she doesn't have long as he's never been able to bring himself to see her in the hospital before. As much as they drive each other crazy, they are lost without each other after all those years.

I know that when it's all said and done, we'll all be fine. And the nice thing is that she's not in any pain at all. She's just plain tired.

I am working on a couple of projects for you and there are some stories that I've been meaning to get to you all from my experiences. Be patient and I will be back very soon.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Voices from the Back of the Car

When I met my husband that got me into my current business, I ran my families limousine business. I did all the books, answered phones, washed and cleaned the cars and drove the monster cars. We ran a very nice business. We specialized in smaller limousines that were more personal and romantic. The limousines you see today are nothing but party barges that have lost all the romance. I'm glad to see that people are hiring drivers for their mobile partying rather than driving drunk. However, I'm also glad that I'm not the one driving them around. Drunks can be so annoying and you find yourself driving from one 24 hour store to the next just so they can all use the restroom, unless your driving one of those ugly buses that have a restroom on board. No romance there. "Let's take a toilet with us!"

So now I spend my driving time behind the wheel of a hearse. I have yet to have even just one passenger call up to the front and tell me that they need to use the toilet. My passengers are much quieter and let me listen to whatever I want on the radio. To date, I have had no complaints from any passengers about my driving. Although I'm sure that I've ruined a few days of others on the road that are in a hurry to get to tennis class or wherever they are going.

On occasion though, I will pick up a job driving a private limousine for some people that I know. Since I've driven for them many times, I know them and some of their needs throughout the night. It's always fun to listen to them discussing business and personal issues and getting a peek into a life that I'd otherwise never get to see. They in turn can relax with their friends and enjoy a cocktail or two and not worry about where they are or how to get there. They simply tell me where they want to go and when they need to be there and leave the rest up to me.

On Friday night, I took the limousine owners wife and some of her friends out on the town. Their destination was a trendy fondue place about an hours drive from where they live. Along the way I got hear all about the fabulous vacations that they've all taken and how one of them has just sold their house but doesn't have a new one yet. So they are shacking up in a small 3 bedroom/two bath cottage on the lake. It's so small and all their furniture is in storage. I heard stories of the horse camps that they were all sending their daughters to over the summer and how the construction in town has made it difficult for them to get to the golf club for dinner. And how it's worse in the daytime traffic to take the kids to private school or tennis. It's better than "real housewives" on Bravo. It's Real Housewives of Michigan!

As with reality tv, it's nice to watch and hear all of this. But at the end of the day, I like my life. I enjoy my small home with my husband and dog. Sometimes seeing people with nothing will help you to appreciate what you have. In this case, seeing people with "everything" helps me to appreciate everything that I have and more.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Life After Death

Well the 70 degree day today certainly made quick work of clearing up all the snow that we've had. It also brought everyone out of their homes for the first time all year. It was nice to see a little life in the neighborhood again. We opened all the windows and let the house have a fresh breath of air.

Suddenly there was a scratch at the door. When I opened the door, there was the little pug dog from down the street. He came down to ask if Pugsley could come out and play. So they spent a good hour playing in the yard before his mom called him home.

This has been our first real sign of spring and it's been long overdue. Welcome Spring!

The funeral business hasn't been too exciting but I thought I'd pass on this story in the spirit of Pugsley and his little friend.
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A man and his dog were walking along a road. The man was enjoying the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead.

He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for years. He wondered where the road was leading them.

After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble... At the top of a long hill, it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight.

When he was standing before it he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother-of-pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold. He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side.

When he was close enough, he called out, 'Excuse me, where are we?'

'This is Heaven, sir,' the man answered.. 'Wow! Would you happen to have some water?' the man asked.

Of course, sir. Come right in, and I'll have some ice water brought right up. 'The man gestured, and the gate began to open.

'Can my friend,' gesturing toward his dog, 'come in, too?' the traveler asked.

'I'm sorry, sir, but we don't accept pets.'

The man thought a moment and then turned back toward the road and continued the way he had been going with his dog.
After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a dirt road leading through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been closed. There was no fence.

As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.

'Excuse me!' he called to the man. 'Do you have any water?'

'Yeah, sure, there's a pump over there, come on in.'

'How about my friend here?' the traveler gestured to the dog.

'There should be a bowl by the pump.'

They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it.

The traveler filled the water bowl and took a long drink himself, then he gave some to the dog.

When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man who was standing by the tree.

'What do you call this place?' the traveler asked.

'This is Heaven,' he answered.

'Well, that's confusing,' the traveler said. 'The man down the road said that was Heaven, too.'

'Oh, you mean the place with the gold streets and pearly gates? Nope. That's hell.'

'Doesn't it make you mad for them to use your name like that?'

'No, we're just happy that they screen out the folks who would leave their best friends behind.'



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Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Robyn's Tree

Some of you may remember the poetry of my niece Robyn from last year. I think she's done it again with this one. ....

Lord make me a tree
I want to reach up to the sky
To feel your light
Growing close to you
As you live through me
Let the birds they come
Upon my branches rest
Fill me with your songs
I dance in the breeze
The leaves my dress
Let my fruit be sweet
Loved by all who taste
Let the lives I bare
Be full of your bounty
Endless love to complete
Let my roots grow deep
As I feed on your gifts
Thankful for your enrichment
You nourish my life
With the love you seep
Let my bark be thick
Protect me from rot
May my branches bend
I sway with the breeze
Not snapped like a stick
To be the bloom of spring
Enduring the cold
I've stood through the snow
I'm tried in the winter
Return adorned another ring



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