Saturday, November 12, 2011

Halloween Cruise 2011

I need a rest....
So I've kept you all waiting long enough. I thought I'd put together a quick rundown of all the fun that we had on our trip.

On board our ship, was 500 gay and lesbian travelers. On a cruise ship that had 1500 passengers, you can bet that we made quite a presence.
On day two, my husband and I were approached by an older gentleman that was cruising with his wife. He asked us how he could get into our parties, because we looked like we were having more fun. He went on to tell us about his daughter that is gay and he felt it was wonderful that a cruise like ours is possible these days. He was excited to let his daughter know about it so she might be able to join a future cruise. Unfortunately for him, our parties were private.

Each night was a different theme for the parties.
The video below was day one.
Anything Rainbow.


Other themes were 70's Disco, 80's Night, Halloween (of course), Pirates of the Caribbean and Cairo nights (Anything Egyptian). There were two nights with no theme as well. The theme nights brought out costumes like I've never seen before. I'll try to get some of them posted in the near future.
Jason & DeMarco
The entertainment consisted of Our long-time friends Jason and DeMarco as well as a new friend, Josh Duffy. There were two big name comedians and the whole thing was MC'd by a well known drag queen and the dance tracks never stopped with our own DJ who you can see in the video.

We enjoyed a small film festival and were also shooting an "It get's better" video drama during the whole trip and the Advocate Magazine was doing and article on the whole thing.
Josh Duffy

With all that entertainment as well as the ship planned entertainment, there was hardly time to relax. But, I am Stew and I know how to relax when I need to. So I made time.
We visited four ports and had shore excursions at each one that I will have to tell about in another post. 

Thursday, November 10, 2011

St. Louis Cemetery #1

 St. Louis Cemetery #1 got it's name because of it's location at the end of St. Louis Street just outside the city limits of New Orleans. Since it's conception, the city has grown and the cemetery has shrunk. Yes, shrunk. This would leave one wondering, what did they do with the bodies.

Well, I'm going to tell you a little about how the cemetery system works in New Orleans.
 They have a different way of doing things in the Crescent City. We'll start with the fact that the name of the cemetery has got #1 at the end. It gets this from the fact that when they widened the road that it is located on, they moved half of the cemetery to a new location a few blocks away, thus creating St. Louis Cemetery #2.

Moved the bodies?! you say. Yes. In fact they move the bodies all the time.

At first glance, most people think that these little buildings are mausoleums. This is not the case at all. They are graves. New Orleans has perfected the Green Funeral long before their popularity started to catch on. They are so green that they actually recycle the grave.

 Most all of the graves are above ground. This is done for a couple of reasons. The most obvious of those reasons is the fact that the city is actually below the level of Lake Pontchartrain and the Mississippi River. It is protected by a series of levies that we all heard about after Hurricane Katrina. To dig down, you will no doubt hit water and therefore can not bury your loved ones.

The other reason is that they need to be able to access the graves for reasons that you are about to learn.

So they have above ground graves.

There are what are essentially apartments, condos and houses. And it works very much like that.




These are NOT mausoleums.


 These are apartments. Rentals. A temporary home.
You see, they don't even put you in an expensive casket. That would be a waste of good money. Use that money to hire a band or put on a nice meal for family and friends. You are laid to rest in a simple box.
There is no air conditioning in the here after. And this is New Orleans. It gets HOT. We are talking well over 100 degrees f. or 40 c. And it stays that way for a good long time. No, it's not cremation. It's more like slow cooking. Imagine putting a pot roast in to cook at 100 degrees for a year or so.

After One year and One day, they come back, open up your grave and take you back out. At this point, there's not much left of what used to be your body. They place what is left into a bag, crush it up, open up the larger bag that is in the grave and put you inside it with your grave-mates.

At this point you may also be moved to your permanent home if you have one, and mixed in with your family.These are Houses. Owned by a family. A family is responsible for taking care of there own house. Some can accomodate up to 3 or 4 bodies at once. Others may have room for just one.

Let's say there is an auto accident and several die at once. You want everyone to be together. So you rent an apartment for a year. Then at that point, everyone can be mixed together and put into their permanent spot. 

 The Condos are similar to Houses. Only they are maintained by the church and have many spaces to accomodate the large population.

If you look closely at this plaque, it starts in 1837 and goes through 2004. And yes, all those people are in this grave. If the plaque gets full, you can simply flip it over and keep going or place the plaque on the side of your house and put a new one on the door. Either way, there is plenty of room for more.

This grave is the 3rd most visited grave in America. It is believed to be the resting place of the one and only  Marie Laveau, 
the famous Voodoo Queen.
Marie was perceived to renew herself, effectively never aging and seemed to know everything about everyone. She could predict the future and make wishes and desires come true. The XXX's that you see all over the grave are visitors requesting that the Voodoo Queen grant their wishes still to this day. It's believed that if you make an offering and place 3 X's or knock 3 times on her grave, she will grant your wish.

A more likely story is that this woman was a hairdresser. And as a black woman of the South, the whites would talk freely in front of her about all their affairs, much as women still do today and this is where she got her information from. She had connections all over town and was able to make it appear that things were mysteriously happening. When people believed that she had these powers, they would give her money and other means of payment. Thus it was quite a good living. It has also been discovered that she had a daughter as well as a granddaughter that were also named Marie. This is how it may have been possible for her to maintain her youthfulness and seem to never age.


 This pyramid shaped grave in the middle of the cemetery will be the final resting place of the actor Nicholas Cage. It seems that money will buy you space in a cemetery that has no space. I can't imagine how many graves were taken out for him to buy this spot on earth.

 Finally, I thought this one was cute. This is a wall decor item that you might buy to put in the doorway of your home. The french word written across the top is Bienvenue. Which translates to Welcome.
Quite a nice way to welcome guest into your home.
This is a family name inscribed across the top of one of the grave houses in the cemetery. Quite a nice way to welcome your family home after a long life.


I hope that you've enjoyed this first part of our epic adventure. Stay tuned. There's a lot more.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Mardi Gras in November

At the request of Meggs, we are giving you a sneak peek at two of the costumes that we are donning while on this epic adventure. Each night's party has a different theme, so I'll just give you a taste of our Mardi Gras costumes to hold you over until our return. We had to take a whole large suit case just for the costumes.




















We'll be back soon.
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Thursday, November 3, 2011

Don't talk like that around me!

I'm still on vacation. But I'm always working on making myself better. So, I'm working on cleaning up my language a little. And so, I've made a list of words that have been eliminated from my vocabulary and the reasons why. Especially on this epic adventure that I am on, these are the six words that have been nixed...


1. Should... This word evokes a feeling of shame and guilt. When we use should in reference to the past, it's in effort to change what can not be changed. When used in reference to the future, it brings up hopelessness, tension and despair. Replace should with want. Instead of saying that you should do something, say that you want to do something.

2. Never... How can we possibly know what the future holds for us. We are constantly growing and changing so how can we rule anything out?

3. Try... Either do something or don't. To try to do something, evokes a feeling of failure before you even begin. So don't try it, do it!

4. Can't... The only limitations that are real are the ones that we believe. If you say that you can't do something, then you probably won't.

5. Certain... If you don't doubt your beliefs and question your reality, you're probably going to be wrong about a lot of things. Let your views grow and evolve. Although questioning is usually viewed as being a weakness (especially in religion and politics), it's really a sign of strength.

6. Problem... These are usually just opportunities and lessons in disguise. And the bigger a problem seems, the more we have to learn from it.

Did I miss any disempowering words? What words would you eliminate from your vocabulary?

I'll be back soon. I promise.