Sunday, December 19, 2010


I'll start this with a quote from John Quincy Adams

"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish."

With the repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT), this quote seems especially true.
And with permission from my beloved friend (one of the men who traveled to Toronto to witness my wedding five years ago) and the author of this guest post, I bring you the opinion of a career military man that is gay.



It is dead, it is gone and I never, ever thought it would happen in my life time. Untold thousands of men and women have served honorably in silence and fear. I know - I was one of them. Twenty four years of absolute terror of being found out was unbelieve pressure. I am certain that the stress from this STUPID policy was a large part of the three heart attacks I have been throuh. Haven't had any problem since I retired. There has NEVER been any reason for the DADT or even the never popular "holy shit he/she is gay - automatic dishonorable discharge." I would have lost the best job in the world, my retirement, and my self worth.

I was so happy to be on the reception desk at Affirmations (a GLBT community center in Ferndale, MI) when the vote took place. What a great way to celebrate this historic occassion. I am not ashamed to admit I broke down in tears of joy and relief.

I went out to celebrate with friends tonight and found I was in such a strange mood that I said the heck with it and came home to comtemplate the entire event. As I sit here with a toddy beside me (and several inside me), I find I am still emotionally charged. Doubt if I will sleep at all.

Both of my sons have called to make sure I was gonna be ok - they knew what this meant to me and were concerned I would stress out. Having their support means more than they will ever know.

I am about to hit Google and see some of the reactions from the American public. Believe I will ignore McCann, Limbaugh, and that stupid, ignorant Glen Beck!

Good night all and thank you for your support!

This is truely, The Brighter Side of the Grave.


Jabacue said...

We are so HAPPY for all of our American 'fellow' brothers!!!! Patience is the key. Next it will start spreading across that great nation of yours!!!
Great post Stew and thanks to your friend.

AJ-OAKS said...

Great post. I will never understand why some people are so homophobic. Reading what your friend wrote and the stress he endured all those years is so heart wrenching.
Slowly but surely things are a changin' for the better. It just takes time.

John Gray said...

obe of your best posts! lovely

John Gray said...


sophie...^5 said...

I am so happy to hear that this decision has finally blossomed. Such unnecessary stress people place on others.Now that the seed has been sown your country will begin to prosper. CONGRATS! Sophie's other DAD Ron