Monday, December 27, 2010

A real Good Samaritan

This comes to us in a round a bout way through author and self proclaimed grumpy old man, Gary Kelly. It's an article from the BBC as written by the original author.

One act of kindness that befell British writer Bernard Hare in 1982 changed him profoundly. Then a student living just north of London, he tells the story to inspire troubled young people to help deal with their disrupted lives.

The police called at my student hovel early evening, but I didn't answer as I thought they'd come to evict me. I hadn't paid my rent in months.

But then I got to thinking: my mum hadn't been    too good and what if it was something about her?

We had no phone in the hovel and mobiles hadn't been invented yet, so I had to nip down the phone box.

I rang home to Leeds to find my mother was in hospital and not expected to survive the night. "Get home, son," my dad said.

I got to the railway station to find I'd missed the last train. A train was going as far as Peterborough, but I would miss the connecting Leeds train by twenty minutes.  I bought a ticket home and got on anyway. I was a struggling student and didn't have the money for a taxi the whole way, but I had a screwdriver in my pocket and my bunch of skeleton keys.

I was so desperate to get home that I planned to nick a car in Peterborough, hitch hike, steal some money, something, anything. I just knew from my dad's tone of voice that my mother was going to die that night and I intended to get home if it killed me.

"Tickets, please," I heard, as I stared blankly out of the window at the passing darkness. I fumbled for my ticket and gave it to the guard when he approached. He stamped it, but then just stood there looking at me. I'd been crying, had red eyes and must have looked a fright.

"You okay?" he asked.

"Course I'm okay," I said. "Why wouldn't I be? And what's it got to do with you in any case?"

"You look awful," he said. "Is there anything I can do?"

"You could get lost and mind your own business," I said. "That'd be a big help." I wasn't in the mood for talking.

He was only a little bloke and he must have read the danger signals in my body language and tone of voice, but he sat down opposite me anyway and continued to engage me.

"If there's a problem, I'm here to help. That's what I'm paid for."

I was a big bloke in my prime, so I thought for a second about physically sending him on his way, but somehow it didn't seem appropriate. He wasn't really doing much wrong. I was going through all the stages of grief at once: denial, anger, guilt, withdrawal, everything but acceptance. I was a bubbling cauldron of emotion and he had placed himself in my line of fire.

The only other thing I could think of to get rid of him was to tell him my story.

"Look, my mum's in hospital, dying, she won't survive the night, I'm going to miss the connection to Leeds at Peterborough, I'm not sure how I'm going to get home.

"It's tonight or never, I won't get another chance, I'm a bit upset, I don't really feel like talking, I'd be grateful if you'd leave me alone. Okay?"

"Okay," he said, finally getting up. "Sorry to hear that, son. I'll leave you alone then. Hope you make it home in time." Then he wandered off down the carriage back the way he came. I continued to look out of the window at the dark. Ten minutes later, he was back at the side of my table. Oh no, I thought, here we go again. This time I really am going to rag him down the train.

He touched my arm. "Listen, when we get to Peterborough, shoot straight over to Platform One as quick as you like. The Leeds train'll be there."

I looked at him dumbfounded. It wasn't really registering. "Come again," I said, stupidly. "What do you mean? Is it late, or something?"

"No, it isn't late," he said, defensively, as if he really cared whether trains were late or not. "No, I've just radioed Peterborough. They're going to hold the train up for you. As soon as you get on, it goes.

"Everyone will be complaining about how late it is, but let's not worry about that on this occasion. You'll get home and that's the main thing. Good luck and God bless."

Then he was off down the train again. "Tickets, please. Any more tickets now?"

I suddenly realised what a top-class, fully-fledged doilem I was and chased him down the train. I wanted to give him all the money from my wallet, my driver's licence, my keys, but I knew he would be offended.

I caught him up and grabbed his arm. "Oh, er, I just wanted to…" I was suddenly speechless. "I, erm…"

"It's okay," he said. "Not a problem." He had a warm smile on his face and true compassion in his eyes. He was a good man for its own sake and required nothing in return.

"I wish I had some way to thank you," I said. "I appreciate what you've done."

"Not a problem," he said again. "If you feel the need to thank me, the next time you see someone in trouble, you help them out. That will pay me back amply.

"Tell them to pay you back the same way and soon the world will be a better place."

I was at my mother's side when she died in the early hours of the morning. Even now, I can't think of her without remembering the Good Conductor on that late-night train to Peterborough and, to this day, I won't hear a bad word said about British Rail.

My meeting with the Good Conductor changed me from a selfish, potentially violent hedonist into a decent human being, but it took time.

"I've paid him back a thousand times since then," I tell the young people I work with, "and I'll keep on doing so till the day I die. You don't owe me nothing. Nothing at all."

"And if you think you do, I'd give you the same advice the Good Conductor gave me. Pass it down the line."

Has a stranger ever done you a good turn? We're all here to hear about the brighter side. So, tell us in the comments section.


AJ-OAKS said...

Years ago when I was a single mom raising three young daughters, working ten hour shifts, trying to make ends meet (refused to get on the 'welfare' program or food stamps), well, there was one month during the winter it was either buy food or oil for heat with the leftover money after paying bills. Food was the choice of course! Anyway, as I was driving home from work gearing myelf up how to tell the girls that the house was going to be really cold for a few weeks until I got paid again, I turned into the driveway to see an envelope taped to the side of the oil tank. Hmmmm, geez, 'now what' was my first thought. I got out of the car, walked over to the tank, opened the envelope and started crying. Why do you ask? Because someone had paid to fill the oil tank up! To this day I have no idea who did it, but I am still grateful for their kindness. As it turned out, that particular month was one of the coldest on record!
It took me a long time to be able to help anyone out, but when I was able to, without question it was done. And I hope that the folks I helped out did the same for others.
Great post Stew.
Okay, our of curiousity, has a stranger made a differance for you?

Janet said...

What a wonderful story-I `am really touched by that-thank god there are people out there who restore your faith in humanity-thank you for sharing that.

gp said...

I don't have anything to compare to your story, but i know that there have been many times strangers went out of their way to help me. One incident comes to mind at the moment.

About 30 years ago i was lucky enough to have enough time and money, and a car available, to drive around Europe for a month (it was far cheaper to do then). It was in May, before tourist season, and i didn't have reservations anywhere.

One evening i happened to get into a small French town fairly late. I'd learned by then that the best way to find a hotel was to find the local train station because that's where most of the hotels were located. For some reason, none of the hotels near the train station had a vacancy and the clerks couldn't recommend a place.

I happened to see a car rental shop that was still open. I assumed that anyone working there would speak decent English (2 years of high school French didn't leave me very fluent), and that he/she might know of some other hotels in the area.

Because it was late, the man at the car rental wasn't busy; his English was excellent btw. When i asked for suggestions, he said that most places probably were booked, but that he would call to see if anyone had a vacancy. He then proceeded to make 2 or 3 calls and managed to find a hotel for me.

I told him how much i appreciated his help and asked for directions to the hotel. He said that it wasn't right in town, that it was difficult to find the place, that he'd be closing up in 10 minutes, and that i could just follow him to the hotel.

Even though i told him that he'd been extremely helpful and that i didn't want to further inconvenience him, he insisted that it wasn't a problem. I have no idea how far he had to go out of his way to drive to the hotel, but i did in fact follow him all the way there.

I hadn't thought about this occurrence for quite some time- i'm grateful that you posted your story and that you reminded me of this act of kindness shown to me by a total stranger.