Showing posts with label And I Quote.... Show all posts
Showing posts with label And I Quote.... Show all posts

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Lambs, Calves, and Butterflies

We will forever be known by the tracks we leave. ~ Dakota tribe

As I listen to the stories of the lives that we honor each day in the funeral business, I often find myself fascinated by what I hear. The life we live daily effects so many others in ways that we can't imagine. We think that our daily grind is so boring or that no one would care about the things we do. But as bloggers, we get a subtle reminder from our readers that people are interested. It's something that many people never get to experience. We don't get to go to our own funerals and hear the wonderful things that people say about us. We don't get to hear the stories of how we touched their lives. 

It's something that I would tell anyone; that people do care and you are loved, more than you'll ever know.

It's been a busy week here in the lower Thumb of Michigan (check the map and you'll know what I mean). There have been a variety of people that we've had the privilege of honoring. We've had rich people, poor people, young people and old ones too. Thursday was a 90 year old woman. Her service was in town, but her burial was in a small country cemetery. A little town, that no one knows where it is when you mention it. I found this appropriate marker at the grave of an infant that was buried  sometime mid century. It's appropriate not only because of the innocence of the young child, but because the name of the town is Lambs.

Often when an older person dies, we don't see a big turn out for the funeral. The person's friends have often died before them and family is scattered and can't always make it. This one was different. She had a big family and they all seemed to stay here locally. They all loved their grandmother, even the ones that weren't related, and everyone showed up. The procession was a long one, both for distance and the number of cars. As we drove out to the cemetery, you could witness the signs of spring and rebirth everywhere. The wild lilies growing in the ditches, a young calf nuzzling against it's mother in a field. When we reached the little grave yard across from the tiny stone church, much of the processional cars were left on the road because there just wasn't enough room for the vast amount of mourners to fit in the cemetery. The children that were in attendance were very well behaved and you could tell that everyone there was  truly sorrowful. As often happens after the committal service, people disperse throughout the grounds of the cemetery looking for loved ones graves. It was such a peaceful place where you felt so at ease. I could see why someone would choose this place of rest. I found great joy watching as two little girls went picking dandelions and chasing butterflies.

Perhaps one of the greatest illusions, is that life could somehow be better than it already is.

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend, and their life. Because everyone around you is enjoying having you in their lives.

Friday, March 9, 2012

Foolishness

Until you're ready to look foolish, you'll never have the possibility of being great.

I believe!
- Cher












Each day, we step out of the house and head off to work, blindly expecting sometimes to have a different result at the end of the day than we had the previous day.
It's my observation that if we are to achieve a different result, then we must start our day differently. Start it with an expectation of greatness. And an attitude to match.
That's not to say that everything is going to turn up roses for you on the first try. But sometimes you have to make a little mess and act a fool. Have fun and enjoy life! A positive, happy attitude will go much further than a boring obedient one will any day of the week.
Now, get out there and DANCE!

Friday, February 17, 2012

Never Lived

When asked what surprised him the most about humanity, the Dalai Lama replied:

Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money.
Then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health.
And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present-
The result being that he does not live in the present or the future.
He lives as if he is never going to die,
and then dies having never lived.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Statistics

This is from National Geographic...

When you are born, you will share your birthday with 17 million people.
During your years in school, you will have an average of 17 friends.
By the time you are 40 that number will have dropped down to 2.
You will grow 950 km of hair.
You will laugh an average of 18 times a day.
You will walk the equivalent of 3 times the circumference of the Earth.
You will eat 30 tons of food.
You will drink over 9000 cups of coffee.
You will have one opportunity in 10 of getting electrocuted.
You will spend an average of 10 years of your life in work,
20 years sleeping,
3 years sitting on the toilet,
7 months waiting in traffic, 
2 months waiting on hold on your phone, 
12 years watching TV
... and 19 days looking for the remote.

This leaves you with one fifth of your life to actually live.....




So what are you waiting for?

Friday, December 23, 2011

Contagiously Inspirational

Try not to become a man of success but a man of value....
-Albert Einstein

As some of you know, I work the midnight shift at the drug store near my home. There, I have the most amazing inspiration for many of my post as well as much of my life. I get to interact with the public there, more than anywhere that I have ever worked before. I also get to work with some awesome people. One of which is the store manager. He is an inspiration in himself. The man just doesn't know how to say NO when it comes to getting the job done. He is an avid hunter and in his spare time mentors city youth in getting outdoors and discovering all that nature holds for them. In February, he will be honored with an award from a national organization for being the positive roll model that he is. We couldn't be more proud to know him. He does all this with out the need for praise and even thinks that we don't know all that he is up to. I mention him because he is such an inspiration to me and is the reason that I have stayed with the company for the past five years although I don't really need the employment. And daily, he reminds me of how much of an inspiration I am to him. I guess we feed off each other in that respect. He is always bragging to others that he is a better man having known me. And I feel the same about him.

I don't feel that I do that much really to inspire others, but my manager would say differently. I simply treat each customer as I would like to be treated. They are each in their own place in the world. Each person that I interact with, I greet with a smile and happily help them with anything that they need. I'm also constantly looking for new and innovative ways to make their shopping experiences easier and better. I've as well stream lined the inventory and ordering process to make life easier for the other employees on a weekly basis. If this makes me an inspiration, then I am left wondering what is going on in the rest of the company.

I am simply kind to others and find ways to make every one's life easier. I think that we all underestimate our power to make the world a better place. If everyone smiled at strangers and helped the people around them, think of how wonderful this world would be. Simple, random acts of kindness when people least expect it. It will make their day. These acts will spawn and inspire other acts and the cycle will continue. If we stop thinking of ourselves only, and recognize other peoples positions, we could inspire a new world. Will winter solstice 2012 be the end of the world as we know it? I hope that it comes faster than that. It is my goal this Christmas season and into the new year to be even more of an inspiration than in the past.

 I hope to be contagiously inspirational

I wish each and every one of the readers here a wonderful holiday.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Travel Recap


"Travel has a way of stretching the mind. The stretch comes not from travel's immediate rewards, the inevitable myriad of new sights, smells and sounds, but with experiencing firsthand how others do differently what we believed to be the right and only way."
- Ralph Crawshaw

On this trip, we learned so much of how things are not only done in other countries, but of the differences here in our own country. We were taken by surprise with all that we encountered and the new friends that we met along the way.

Daily in the funeral business, we experience customs and rituals of all faiths. And we see those that chose not to join a religion as well. We don't just bury people. We help the families to celebrate the lives of the one that they have lost, whatever life that was. Some are long, some are short. We don't sit and judge anyone. We respect the life that they chose for themselves. Then we honor that life by presenting a funeral custom tailored to the families wishes.

In life, I try to do the same. We are all free to chose our own destiny. To live as we see fit. The choices made by anyone, are no more right or wrong than the choices made by you or I.

I know that the followers of this blog, have a very diverse background and I embrace all of you. I wish that each and every one of you had been there along with us. 
Since that wasn't possible, I hope that you enjoyed what I have shared here on these pages.  

The cultures that we learned about on our travels will stay with us forever. This is what I love about travel. It changes you, in a good way. It broadens your view of the world as long as you take the time to leave yourself at home. Embrace the culture around you. Even if just for a day, take in the atmosphere of the place that you are visiting. Experience all that is out there beyond your front door.
In this festive season as you visit friends and family, do the same. Embrace the traditions and differences at their homes. No one is right, no one is wrong. We are simply enjoying each others company and learning to live.

Lastly, remember; "The road to a friends house, is never long."
- Danish Proverb

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Third Stop : Roatan, Honduras

We awoke the next morning at one of the most beautiful ports, I've seen. 
Roatan, Honduras.
The port itself was very small and you can clearly see the surrounding town and countryside.
As we exited the protected port area, the sales pitches began. "We'll take you here or there for cheaper", "Don't support the rich, help the real people of Honduras".
It was heartbreaking that they were out there begging the "rich Americans" for anything that they could get.
This being our third stop on this trip, we were getting used to this. 

 On the ride out to the resort in the taxi van, our escort was telling us about the school system. He was a high school student, working to help support his family; His mother had 13 children. The schools all share one building. The youngest children go first thing in the morning, with the middle age children right behind. The high school kids are free to work in the day and go to school in the evening.

They are a very religious island. The main religion is Penticostal with Catholic a close second. Having grown up in the Penticostal church, I know that it is filled with a lot of rules for life. And the list of dos and don'ts are mainly just don'ts. Like in Belize, the average daily wage is very low and again the lucky ones are the people that work in the tourism field. While we certainly don't see ourselves as rich, in their eyes, we have more than they will ever need.

"The real voyage of discovery consist not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." - Marcel Proust

Having traveled quite a bit in my life, I have learned though, these people don't seek to have what I have. For the most part, they don't understand why we even want all the "stuff" that we have. I have learned that I can visit these areas, compensate those that help me to obtain what I am looking for and leave the rest as I have found it. Along the way, I take it all in, with an understanding of how things are done elsewhere from my home.

And as Robert Louis Stevenson said; "There are no foreign lands. It is the traveler only who is foreign."


So with all that in mind, we progressed out to an amazing beach resort. When we arrived, we walked through a hotel/condo area with an amazing reflecting pool with waterfalls and bridges. We were lead out to the beach and given a private spot to unwind and enjoy the day. As we started to relax, some of the beach vendors started to approach. They were selling everything from beaded necklaces to fresh coconuts, cut open and ready to enjoy. They had sea shells and towels and anything else you could think of. We noticed that if you were nice to one, the others would follow and it started getting so we could not relax.
So we started mingling more. That's when I was finally able to get the chance to catch up with Jason and deMarco who were the headlining singers on the ship. It was their personal invitation that got me to take this trip in the first place. Being celebrities, they were constantly surrounded with groupies and it was nice to finally have a few minutes alone with them on the beach to catch up on everything that's been going on in all of our lives since we last saw each other.

After catching up, we made our way out to enjoy some of that Caribbean Sea at our feet. The warm salt water and air are quite a contrast to here at home.

After our dip, we started looking for a quieter place to relax and chanced upon this little slice of heaven.

Then the waiter suggested that we hit the pool. Well, we didn't see a pool. So we asked where that was and we were informed that we passed it on the way in.

It turns out that the fancy reflecting pool with all the waterfalls, is the pool.
So we made our way out there. The scenery there was just as beautiful as at the beach and it was much quieter as well.


After relaxing by the pool for a while, we all noticed that our beautiful sunny day was starting to turn cloudy. The staff at the resort told us of an impending storm coming and recommended that we head back to the ship.

Feeling completely rejuvenated and refreshed, we did just that.
Here's Ed saying good bye to a very beautiful place in the world.
Thanks for and amazing day.
That's when we spotted this rainbow over my shoulder.

The sun setting in the West and the storm coming in from the East created a beautiful end to a great day.
We were starting to feel completely disconnected from the stress of home at this point.




After everyone was back on board and we left the port, we could see the storm hitting the island where we were just at. I think the captain had it in Hyperdrive to get us out of there before it got rough.

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Sleek, sophisticated



"You can have money piled to the ceiling but the size of your funeral is still going to depend on the weather"
- Chuck Tanner




Oh, how I wish that quote were true. Last Friday the rain was pouring down. And the cars were pouring in to the parking lot even faster. After an hour of standing out there trying to keep things organized, I was soaked to the core. My feet were so wet that I made squishy noises as I walked. By the end of the day, I had the worst case of prune toes I'd seen since I was a child that wouldn't get out of the pool. I hope you're having a dry day where ever you are.

I think I'll go buy some new shoes.




Monday, September 19, 2011

Your greatest enemy

Seek strength, not to be greater than your brother,
But to fight your greatest enemy; Yourself.

-unknown tribe



Isn't it your triumphs over adversity, surprise rebounds, and stellar comebacks that you look back on with the most fondness? Far more than the easy, cake for breakfast and pyjamas in the afternoon, kind of times?


Haven't you noticed, that you're "wired" to succeed?


Thursday, September 8, 2011

Safe Harbor

 Last Saturday, I took the day off.
 Yes, it's true.

My husband, myself and a good friend took a drive up the coast to the sleepy little town of Lexington.
Lexington is a cute little town filled with b&b's and quaint shops. We enjoyed some burgers at Wimpy's Hamburgers and walked around listening to the live music being played at many stages throughout town and along the shore. They were having the Thumb Music festival with bands ranging from jazz to bluegrass. My husband's oldest brother was playing so we thought we'd show our support.

 No trip to Lexington would be complete without exploring the harbor. Since Lake Huron can get pretty rough, they've built a huge wall of rocks encircling the docks to protect the boats from the ravaging waves.

It's so peaceful to walk along the top of the rocks all the way out to the end. You're far enough away from shore that you can't hear any of the goings-on. It's the next best thing to being on a boat.

It's the perfect place to sit and fish if that's your sort of thing. Or if you're like myself, a great place to be alone with your thoughts. If you're with a loved one, like I was this time, it's a great place to enjoy each others company.

It was a beautiful "last unofficial day of summer". Later in the day, as the sky started to darken, we decided to head for home. When we reached our house, our neighbor stuck his head out and told us that he was concerned because he'd heard that Lexington was having severe storms and he knew that we were going there for the day. I guess we left at the right time. You can't always stay in the protection of the harbor.

That got me to thinking of some wonderful quotes for you today.




A ship in the harbor is safe, but that's not what ships are built for.

- John A. Shedd

And a favorite of mine....

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the things that you did do.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore. Dream. Discover.

- Mark Twain

Here in Michigan, you can tell that it is September. The temps have fallen, a few trees are turning and the kids have all started school again. It's cool and rainy today, and there is the promise of apple cider in the air.

Have a great day.

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Thursday, September 1, 2011

The soul would have no rainbow...

In honor of my now late mother and her Native American ancestry, I will be quoting from time to time some Native American proverbs. Many of which will be quoted from the book  "The Soul Would Have No Rainbow, If The Eyes Had No Tears" by Guy A Zona.

My grandfather claimed to be Chippewa, but his family came from the central New York area, where there were no Chippewa. Since there wasn't a lot of records kept in the 1800's, we'll let him slide and embrace ALL the Native American teachings.

For in reality,"With all things and in all things, we are relatives"
- Sioux

(Home)

Proverbs are time-honored truths which condense the collected wisdom and experience of a people and their culture. If you want to know a people, the saying goes, know their proverbs.

Proverbs often serve as a means of instruction in the rules of conduct and ethical behavior expected by all members of a society. What makes them an effective tool is that they are based on a keen observation of human nature and behavior rather than idealized and unrealistic standard.

The proverbs I'll share here are those of a people who love the land and regard it as sacred, who see daily prayer as a duty, and have no need to set apart one day out of seven as a holy day, but rather observe every day as God's day.

Feel free along the way to share a proverb of your own ancestry in the comments.


Originally published at http://brightergrave.blogspot.com/

Saturday, August 27, 2011

200

Today marks a special moment for me here at the Brighter Side. Today is my 200th post.


We've been through a lot here. Most of which as been bright. I love sharing my perspective with you and getting your feedback. Some post still make me cry when I look back on them. I am constantly reminded that even what seems like a bad or dark day,  can eventually be viewed as something positive if we learn from it.

It's ironic that we started this thing back in Spring of 2010 with a peek at the Caribbean  cruise that we took our parents on in March. What an experience that was. And it turned out to be the last big trip that my mother took before her death in May of 2011. While it was a lot of work to put that whole thing together and make sure they were everywhere they needed or wanted to be during the entire trip, it worked out to be one of the greatest things I could have ever done for them. And now, we are fast approaching a week long Caribbean cruise on our own. A reward of sorts. I will absolutely take you all along through this virtual word of blogging.

I've enjoyed over the past year and a half "meeting" all of you. I feel like I know each and every one of you on one level or another. I started this blog for my husband to have a venue to write about some of his experiences in the funeral business. He is still nervous about the whole idea even though he see's how successful it's been. Although our personalities are very similar, I have to admit that I get a lot of my funeral humor from him. Perhaps with a little encouragement we can get him writing.

I love to share some of the stories of things that happen in our every day work and to look back at some of our history in the body removal business too. But it was the 30 day blog challenge that really opened up my world. Through that, I was able to open up about myself and let you, the reader know a little more about where the stories were coming from. I think that grounds them and gives them credibility. During the challenge is when my own mother passed away. And I learned what the business was all about.

It has been a growing and learning experience on this end like never before. And I hope that I've helped you along the way too. Be it with my life lessons, my inspirational quotes, every day life, funeral stories or what I call my brighter days post when I just try to lighten up our corner of the universe. If you get a quarter as much out of this as you've given me then you're life is truly blessed.


Behind every face there is a story. And the real decision is whether or not you want to hear that story.

It's an interesting life from the driver seat of a hearse. Death is never easy. I see it all and am here to share with you what I can.
It's not all about death. It's about life. Many headstones have two dates on them. This blog is about the dash between those dates.
This blog is about the brighter side of the grave.
           

I look forward to many more interactions with all of you. Thanks for visiting and making the Brighter Side of the Grave what it is.


"May you LIVE all the days of your life"   - Jonathan Swift


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Saturday, August 13, 2011

And I quote...

Someone once said, 
"There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good . Love the people who treat you right, pray for/forgive those who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living." 


I wish that someone was me that said that first. But I'm happy to repeat it. I would add that when that time comes in your life, then, you've reached maturity.




I hope that you are surrounded by the people that make you laugh daily.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

And I Quote...

"I like to think that a funeral is just when a birth certificate expires."


- E. Borowski